Motherhood Series
Volume 09.
Kate Parfet

Kate Parfet, mother, founder of Studio Parfet and an accomplished writer and model, is a multifaceted creative based in Los Angeles. Her thought-provoking book Milking a Duck, draws from her personal journey with endometriosis. The collection of poems delves into the nuanced experiences of motherhood and challenges societal norms surrounding women's reproductive health, bringing a unique perspective to these often overlooked conversations.

In this edition of BAINA's motherhood series, Kate reflects on adaptability through motherhood, being present, the importance of self-acceptance, and finding joy in the simple rituals shared with her son.

Kate and Louis captured by friend and photographer Bliss Braoudakis.

"I try to be intentional and flexible with my time when bathing. Sometimes it means seizing those precious minutes when my son naps, knowing that this brief window is my chance to recharge. Other times, I get creative—setting up an activity chair near the tub so he can be entertained while I sneak in a quick rinse. It’s about finding ways to integrate self-care into the day, even if it looks different than I imagined.

I also make space for bathing mentally by letting go of the idea that a bath has to be long or luxurious to be worthwhile. What matters is that I’m making time for myself, no matter how small it might seem. It’s my way of reminding myself that I deserve care and attention too, even when my focus is so often on caring for my son."

"Every day as a parent feels like stepping into the unknown—a landscape where nothing goes as planned. One minute, you’re hoping for a peaceful nap time, and the next, you’re battling sand stuck in tiny fingers and toes. We’re always figuring things out on the fly, and it’s a reminder that there’s no such thing as ‘doing it right’. My son is my greatest teacher in this. Every little chaos teaches me to let go, to embrace the imperfections. My need to control is constantly being challenged, and honestly, that’s a good thing for both of us."

"I’m learning to accept the present version of myself without judgment. Some days, I’m a tired mom who only has the energy to shave half a leg, and that’s okay. I’ve realized that it’s more important to be kind to myself and acknowledge that I’m doing my best. Every small effort counts, and accepting where I am right now is a form of self-care in itself. It’s in those moments of acceptance that I find the most peace."

"There’s a certain surrender to the process of bath time—the rhythm of it becomes almost meditative. There’s the running of the water, the careful checking of the temperature with a touch of a hand, and the gentle stripping away of clothes. It’s a ritual that demands presence, pulling you into the moment. In those moments, the absence of phones and other distractions creates a space for pure, unfiltered wonderment. The simplicity of it is pretty profound."